MARRIAGE IS TRANSPARENT
I grew up in a village where you were first introduced to swimming in a pond. I remember how different it was swimming at the beach (one of the many 365 in Antigua – just had to plug that in). And of course the first time I went into a swimming pool was also a new experience. There are many differences if you were to compare the water in the pond to that at the beach or in the pool. But the one thing that struck me was in pond you couldn’t see anything under the water whereas in the other two you can. One was TRANSPARENT allowing you to see through to the bottom while the other was all brown and you couldn’t even see your feet to know what you were stepping on. Last week we reflected on MARRIAGE IS PERMANENT. Today’s FF continues a similar path by calling us to consider MARRIAGE IS TRANSPARENT.
For MARRIAGE to be all that it can be both persons must be ready to risk – yes it is a risk – to be TRANSPARENT. To be TRANSPARENT is to take a posture or an attitude which says that my spouse must know me so well that he/she can literally see through me. It is evident when I’m upset. It’s visible that I’m pleased. It’s plain that I’m a bit confused about something. It’s not about asking your spouse to be a mind-reader. Instead it is about letting your spouse see, know and come to understand the real you.
But being TRANSPARENT is not always easy because as human beings we donÂ’t always communicate in a clear and understandable manner our thoughts. We may feel one way but the words that we utter from our mouths may not capture fully just how we feel. So then we may try to do something to really express how we feel and at times what we do may also betray how we feel or what weÂ’re thinking. But there are those times in MARRIAGE though where we get it right. And when those moments happen we look at our spouse and we smile happily because we can now see clearly. We now understand.
A TRANSPARENT MARRIAGE is possible and attainable, but it takes time to build. In the Garden of Eden the first MARRIAGE of the first created couple was totally TRANSPARENT. Then entered sin and transparency in MARRIAGE was lost. How do we know that? They both covered up their nakedness and went to hide from God. That symbolic covering of themselves with fig leaves reflects that not only did Adam and Even hide from God but in the process they also started hiding from each other.
A MARRIAGE that is not TRANSPARENT will not grow! As a couple, pledge to let your spouse see through you to uncover all that’s there – the good and the bad, the unpleasant and the attractive. And as there is that peeling away, genuine love will say, “No matter what I see as you become TRANSPARENT to me, I will still love you just as much and even more than the first day I met you.”
MARRIAGE IS TRANSPARENT. Till next Friday, continue to strengthen your MARRIAGE and even if youÂ’re not married, transparency is key to any genuine friendship. So be TRANSPARENT, eventually the visible you will be the real you.
Mikie Roberts (Rev)
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http://moravians.net/serendipity/index.php?/categories/1-Friday-Focus
But being TRANSPARENT is not always easy because as human beings we donÂ’t always communicate in a clear and understandable manner our thoughts. We may feel one way but the words that we utter from our mouths may not capture fully just how we feel. So then we may try to do something to really express how we feel and at times what we do may also betray how we feel or what weÂ’re thinking. But there are those times in MARRIAGE though where we get it right. And when those moments happen we look at our spouse and we smile happily because we can now see clearly. We now understand.
A TRANSPARENT MARRIAGE is possible and attainable, but it takes time to build. In the Garden of Eden the first MARRIAGE of the first created couple was totally TRANSPARENT. Then entered sin and transparency in MARRIAGE was lost. How do we know that? They both covered up their nakedness and went to hide from God. That symbolic covering of themselves with fig leaves reflects that not only did Adam and Even hide from God but in the process they also started hiding from each other.
A MARRIAGE that is not TRANSPARENT will not grow! As a couple, pledge to let your spouse see through you to uncover all that’s there – the good and the bad, the unpleasant and the attractive. And as there is that peeling away, genuine love will say, “No matter what I see as you become TRANSPARENT to me, I will still love you just as much and even more than the first day I met you.”
MARRIAGE IS TRANSPARENT. Till next Friday, continue to strengthen your MARRIAGE and even if youÂ’re not married, transparency is key to any genuine friendship. So be TRANSPARENT, eventually the visible you will be the real you.
Mikie Roberts (Rev)
HereÂ’s the link for the blog. Join in the discussions.
http://moravians.net/serendipity/index.php?/categories/1-Friday-Focus
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